In all my years of counseling, I can easily say, all the people (including me) who have forced events in their lives would do anything to take those moments back. A force-fit life adventure never works out for an individual who chooses to live with energy, vibrancy, and youthfulness. It is going against the grain, like the way it hurts when we rub our hand in the wrong direction against a grain of wood. We can get to the other side of the wood, but not without a lot of splinters.